To resume

Friends who've known me since my pre-blogging days and who perhaps don't spend quite as much time immersed in the world of blogging as I do --- they've asked me before, how is it that I can put up my life on such public display on my blog, to have its minute details read by people I've never met and whom I may never meet.

My answer is simple: it's not my entire life that's on display here, it's just the bits and pieces that I choose to put on record, things that I can live with people knowing, that don't infringe on my own privacy or security in any way. The blog version of me is hardly the whole me there is to know.

Of the many things I don't write about, one of them is my relationship with Terz. It's an unwritten rule that I came up with on my own, to maintain my sense of equilibrium between public and private, between real and virtual.

And then sometimes things spill over into the public domain.

All of which is a long preamble to my saying that if you didn't know already from reading Terz's blog (also the most beautiful blog entry ever --- I'm not insensitive to that), here's the Cliffs Notes' version:

Terz and I are splitting up I am splitting up with Terz because from my point of view, we'd drifted so far apart I didn't know why I was with him any longer. Yes, this is what I really want. Yes, this is the right decision for me.

That's all I'm prepared to say here --- at least, at this juncture. Maybe someday I'll say more, maybe this is all there'll ever be on this blog about this.

Meanwhile, life, as they say, goes on.


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At 2/12/2007 5:30 am , Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have been a faithful follower of your blog. Am really sorry to hear that you're going through such a rough patch.

You're very brave to share this with the anonymous public that reads your blog. My thoughts are with you in this difficult period. Good luck and take care.

At 2/12/2007 6:28 am , Blogger limegreenspyda said...

had a dream about you some nights ago. odd, seeing as we've never met, nor do i know how you look. but i knew it was you in that dream, and that i was rather concerned in some fashion.

and then, i stumble on this entry, just some hours after you post it.

am truly sorry. (other) words escape me. but i hope you will keep yourself well. take care.

At 2/12/2007 2:01 pm , Anonymous Anonymous said...

hi, i've been reading your blog for many months now. And I must admit that I imagined your persona based on your entries - your thoughts on teaching, working fm home, food, books. As you must already know by now, that this entry comes as a shock for someone in my position. I guess I realize now that your online identity is but one of your many facets.

But if your online identity is anything to go by, I am fairly confident that you will pull through this difficult period. Wish you the very best in all the things you do...

At 2/12/2007 10:52 pm , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Your strength and courage truly amaze me.

Take care girl,

At 2/13/2007 12:32 am , Anonymous Anonymous said...

What about the cat???

At 2/13/2007 8:08 am , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Even if we have met in passing a couple of times, I know neither you nor him well. While there is sadness in hearing about two persons on the cusp of living separate lives, I trust that, with time, the clarity you have found will allow you to prove yourself right, that you have made the right decision.

I wish you the best.

At 2/16/2007 5:34 am , Anonymous Anonymous said...

i love your blog and i've missed you during the time you were away. it was a brave thing to do to end a long-lasting relationship & to acknowledge that you've drifted apart rather than stay together just for the sake of doing so. i wish you well and look forward to more great writing from you.


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